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Hey there, readers! 🌟 Grab your virtual coffee, because today, we’re delving into the world of leadership with a focus on the essential skills that make a good manager and keep talent engaged and thriving.

We’ll start with this simple but controversial question: Have you ever had a bad boss, and if yes, what made them a bad boss? 

Why Bad Bosses Might Be Unintentional Antagonists! 

Ever had a boss who made you wonder if they woke up thinking, “How can I be a bad boss today?” Probably not. Most often, bad bosses have good intentions. The root of their behavior often stems from a place of fear. They want to be liked, they avoid tough conversations and they prioritize their own needs over those of their team.

The impact? Frustrated employees. Team members who lack clarity, growth opportunities, and engagement. It’s essential to understand that employees crave more than just a paycheck; they want to feel valued and have the chance to grow within their roles.

Enough about Bad Bosses, because we have all had them and know them. Let’s instead dive into the ever-evolving critical competencies that progressive managers must practice to retain and develop talent!

The Improved Skill of ‘Yes, And’

Leaders shouldn’t fall into the trap of ‘either/or’ thinking. It’s not about choosing between being compassionate or holding people accountable—it’s about finding the ‘and.’ Combining empathy and accountability leads to the most successful outcomes. This blend encourages employees to take risks, innovate, and feel supported in their growth.

Leading With A ‘Yes, And’

Skill Number 2

Listening: The Underrated Competency

Listening is not just about hearing words; it’s about understanding and empathizing. Leaders who truly listen gain insight into their team’s motivations, values, and aspirations. This information can be used to support team members in their personal and professional growth and development, which was recently noted as a top skill in talent retention.

15 Ways Leaders Can Hone Active Listening Skills

Skill Number 3

The Ability to Build Competence and Confidence in Your People

Competence and confidence are crucial components of human performance. Leaders can foster these qualities in their teams by creating a safe space for growth and encouraging employees to take calculated risks.

5 Ways To Build Confidence In Your Employees

Our guide will help you set up your Performance Management System. Whether you are a first-time manager or a business owner looking to create a new system

Bonus point:

When looking for leadership potential, make sure to promote someone who can balance accountability with empathy.

When leaders prioritize one over the other, the results suffer. Striking this balance is essential for employee well-being, engagement, and ultimately, organizational success.

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After this insightful exploration, we can conclude that Good Bosses possess a perfect mix of empathy, accountability, active listening, and the ability to foster competence and confidence in their teams. Leaders should aim for the “YES AND”‘ rather than settling for ‘either/or’ approaches. Remember, the best leaders don’t just lead; they empower and support their team members to be their best selves.

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This article is based on the conversation in this episode of “Bad Boss with Anya Soto.”

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